世界杯激情开战,足球教练的选人哲学演讲:自信比球技更重要!
世界杯激情开战,足球教练的选人哲学演讲:自信比球技更重要!
Ivan Joseph 曾经是一位著名的冠军足球教练,当许多家长想要让自己的孩子跟他学习踢球,并夸赞自己孩子的球技有多么出色、视力有多好时,他会告诉家长,他选人最重要的标准不是这些,而是看一个人是否有自信。
几乎每一个人都遇到过缺乏自信的情况,在这篇 TED 演讲中,Ivan Joseph 真实生动地讲述了三个提升自信的技巧,包括重复的练习、适当称赞自己、保持坚定的信念等。不仅仅是在竞技体育中,生活中的很多时刻都是如此,希望这篇演讲能对每一个人有所启迪:
In my past life as a soccer coach, once you won a national championship, everyone wants to come play for you.
我曾经是一名足球教练,当获得国家级比赛的冠军之后,所有人都想进入我的队伍。
Really not true. Once you paid them $25,000 a year in scholarships, everybody wants to come play for you. And parents would always come to me and they’d say: “Okay, my son or my daughter wants to come play at your university, what is it that we have to do? You know, what are you looking for?”
这话也不能这么说。应该是当成员的年薪高达25000美元的时候,每个人都想进来。一些家长会对我说,我家孩子想去你的学校练习踢球,我们要做什么准备呢?你们需要什么样的孩子?
And being the Socratic professor that I am, I say, well, what does your son or daughter do? What do they do really well that we’d be interested in? And typically their answers are, well, they’ve got great vision. They’re really good. They can see the entire field. Or, my daughter is the fastest player, there’s nobody that can beat her. Or, my son’s got a great left-footer. Really great in the air and can hit every ball.
作为一个专业的足球从业人员,我们感兴趣的地方在于他们是做什么的,他们有什么能吸引我的能力?通常来说,我得到的回答是他们的视力非常好。真的非常好,整个球场都能一览无余。要么就是我女儿跑得非常快,没人比得上她。我儿子的左腿很厉害,踢球又狠又准。
I’m like: “Yeah, not bad; but to be quite honest with you, those are the last things I’m looking for. The most important thing? Self-confidence.”
我就只能说:“还行,但是说实话,这些都不重要,最重要的是自信。”
Without that skill, and I use the word skill intentionally, without that skill, we are useless as a soccer player. Because when you lose sight or belief in yourself, we’re done for.
如果没有这项技能,我故意用了技能这个词,这项技能才是成为足球选手的最重要的因素。因为当你视力下降或者不自信的时候,一切就都结束了。
I use the definition of self-confidence to be the ability or the belief to believe in yourself, to accomplish any task, no matter the odds, no matter the difficulty, no matter the adversity. The belief that you can accomplish it – self-confidence.
我把自信定义为:相信自己有在任何困难的情况下完成任务的能力。自信就是相信自己能够做到。
Some of you are saying, “Great, I don’t have it. I’m so shy. I’ll never do that, bla, bla, bla.”
你们可能会说,“但是我没有自信啊,我很害羞,我做不到,等等…”
And you start to drag all the way down here. But, I use the word skill because I believe it can be trained. And I’ll show you a couple of ways in which we do. Hopefully I won’t run out of time. I don’t use any slides because my speech always goes here, or here, or here. So we’ll see which way we get to.
这种想法会影响到你们的行为,但是我用技能这个词,就是想说,我相信自信是能够培育出来的。下面我来告诉你们几种方法。希望不会超时,我没有做幻灯片展示。因为我的讲话总是任意而为,看看我能讲到什么吧。
The easiest way to build self-confidence: there’s no magic button. I can’t say: “Hey, this plane is going down, who can fly? Put your hand up.”“I can, I’m confident!”Repetition, repetition, repetition. Right?
建立自信最简单的方法就是——其实并不神秘,我不可能说“那个飞机即将坠落,
谁会飞?举起手来!”“我会,我有信心。”——重复,重复,再重复,明白吗?
What does Malcom Gladwell call it, the 10,000-hour rule? There’s no magic button.
马尔科姆·格拉德威尔怎么说来着,1000小时管理?这一点也不神秘。
I recruited a goalie from Colombia, South America one year. Big, tall 6’3″ man. You know, he had hands like stone. I thought he was like Flipper. Every time I threw him the ball, down, onto the ground. I was like, oh my god, we’re in trouble.
我从南非哥伦比亚招募了一名守门员。1米9的大块头,手像石头一样坚硬。好像动物的蹼一样,但是每次我扔球给他都接不住。我当时想完蛋了。
Simple solution: get to the wall, kick a ball against the wall and catch it. Kick the ball against the wall and catch it.
简单的解决方法:找堵墙,对着墙踢球再接住。踢球再接住。
His goal was 350 a day for eight months. He came back, his hands were calloused, the moisture on his hands were literally gone, he is now playing in Europe. Magic? No.
他的目标是每天练习350次,持续八个月。等他完成时,双手已经布满老茧,他的姿势也不再生疏,现在在欧洲踢球。很神奇吗?一点也不。
Repetition, repetition, repetition.
重复,重复,再重复。
The problem is, we expect to be self-confident but we can’t be unless the skill, or the task we’re doing, is not novel, is not new to us. We want to be in a situation where we have so much pressure in that and what I mean, because pressure builds diamonds, we want to be in a situation where “Hey, I’ve done this a thousand times”.
问题在于,我们期望自己能够自信,但是只有在这项技能或者这个任务,烂熟于心的情况下才能奏效。我们希望自己处于高压的环境下,因为压力能够使人进步,我们希望自己遇到的情况是:“这个我已经练习了几百遍了。”
I did my speech, and I practiced in front of a mirror: bla, bla, bla, bla, bla, bla. Hey I’m sounding good. And then I went in front of my kids, and my wife. I said, oh gosh, I got a little nervous. Then I’d get in front of Glenn Gould, Oh my goodness, I am a little more nervous!
为了这次演讲,我在镜子面前不断练习讲话。那时我表现的很棒,但是当我在孩子和妻子面前联系演讲时。我觉得自己有点紧张。当我站在格伦·古尔德面前时,我的天哪,我更紧张了!
By the time I get to the ACG, where 2,500 people, can’t say anymore, right? Twenty-five hundred people, where twenty-five hundred people are there, I won’t have a single ounce of nervousness because of my ability to practice. Right?
如果这样的话,我到有2500观众的现场时,肯定紧张得快讲不出话来。2500个人,有2500个人啊,但是我一点也不觉得紧张了,因为我练习地很好。
Over, and over, and over, again.
一遍一遍又一遍的练习。
The problem with repetition is: how many of us bail after the first bit of failure? How many of us bail after the first bit of adversity? Edison was on that video, and it depends who you ask, there’s anywhere from 1,000 to 10,000 tries to build that light bulb. 1,000 to 10,000. www.kouyi.org
重复的问题在于:有多少人能够在第一次失败的时候振作起来?有多少人能够在面对瓶颈的时候坚持下去?我们都知道爱迪生,为了制造出白炽灯,试验了一千次一万次。
J.K Rowling should be on that video. Do you know how many publishers she took her Harry Potter book to? I believe the number was 12 or 13…I am pretty confident but after two or three no’s I’d be like: “damn it!”. After six or seven, I’m like: “maybe not!” Definitely after nine or ten, I’d be looking to be a soccer coach or something else besides an author. Right? I mean, twelve times somebody said no. But, practice, practice, practice, and do not accept failure. www.kouyi.org
J. K. 罗琳也是,你们知道她给多少出版社寄过哈利波特吗?差不多有十二、三家。刚开始如果是我肯定也很有信心的,但两三家之后我会想“去你的!”六七家之后可能开始质疑自己。十家之后,我肯定会转行去做一名足球教练,反正不做作家了是吧?被拒绝了十二次,多糟糕。但是不断练习,对失败说不。
Maybe it shouldn’t be repetition, maybe the answer should be persistence. Because we all repeat something but very few of us really will persist. So that’s one way to build self-confidence. Get out there. Do what you want to do and do not accept no.
或许可以不叫做重复,答案可能应该是坚持。因为我们都在重复一些事情,但是很少有人能够真的坚持下来。所以这是一种建立自信的方法。你要做的就放开手,大胆去做,做你想做的事情,不惧失败。
The other one is self-talk. We all have a self-talk tape that plays in our head. Anybody go shopping and put on a pair of pants this week? If you’re a woman, the first thing that always comes: “Damn I look fat in these pants!”And if you’re a man, it’s the opposite: “Oh god, I got no muscle, I’m so flabby!” Right? We all have this tape that plays in our head. www.kouyi.org
另一个方式就是自我激励。我们总是会在脑海中跟自己对话。有人这周去购物中心试裤子吗?如果你是一名女性,你第一反应一般会是这裤子太显胖了。如果你是男性,则相反,天哪,我怎么没有肌肉?我的肉怎么这么松!我们总会在脑海中进行这种对话。
As a student, if they asked me the question, it was like: “Oh, gee please professor don’t pick me, I don’t know the answer.” I’d look down. Right?
作为一名学生,如果被问到问题,心里会想,教授千万别选我回答问题我不会。然后低下头,是不是?
If you’re in the b…when I, let me tell you something, and the VP of business admin is here, I shouldn’t repeat this, but when they hired me as an athletics director, I sat in an architect’s meeting, and I am as dumb as a post when it comes to anything to do with numbers and angles.
我告诉你,业务管理的副总裁在这里,我本不该说的,但是当他们雇佣我做领队的时候,我在那场会议上,完全不懂他们提及的数字,角度等问题。
And they are like: the fundibulator valve of the architectural, uh, what do you think doctor Joseph? Uh, let me look into that for you and get back to you. Right? I was in a, oh god god, please don’t ask me, please don’t ask me. We all have this negative self-talk that goes in our head.
他们会说,这栋建筑的基础价值等等等等,你有什么看法,约瑟夫博士?给我点时间,先去调查一下。我一直在想,天哪,千万别问我。这种消极的对话时不时会出现在我们的脑海中。
Guess what? There’s enough people that are telling us we can’t do it. That we’re not good enough. Why do we want to tell ourselves that? We know for a fact that thoughts influence actions. We saw it there with the video Sheldon, Dr. Levy showed.
已经有无数多的人认为我们做不到了。认为我们不够好,那为什么我们自己还要那么想呢?我们都知道意识影响行为。前面谢尔顿教授也跟我们分享过。
We know that our thoughts influence actions, why do we want to say that negative self-talk to ourselves? We need to get our own self-affirmations. Muhammad Ali, what was his self-affirmation? I am the greatest! Who else is going to tell you?
既然已经知道意识会对行为有所影响,那为什么我们自己还要贬低自己呢?我们需要有自我认知,穆罕默德阿里的自我认识是什么?我最牛!不然谁会告诉你。
There need to be quiet moments in your bedroom, quiet moments when you’re brushing your teeth. That we need to reaffirm: “I am the captain of my ship and the master of my fate!” That is my affirmation. www.kouyi.org
你在卧室时应该有一些安静的时间,或是你刷牙的时候,我们需要自我肯定:“我是自己这艘船的船长,我是自己命运的主宰!”这就是自我肯定。
I came from a school of one thousand people, I lived in a town of one thousand people for fifteen years; there’s no reason that I should be in charge of an Athletics department, building maple leaf gardens. But I am the captain of my ship and the master of my fate. If I don’t say it, if I don’t believe it, no one else will.
我的学校有1000名学生。我在一个1000人口的小镇上生活了15年。看起来我似乎不能掌管一个运动部门,建一个枫叶园。但是我是自己生活的主宰。如果自己不对自己说,那谁会来告诉你。
How do you build self-confidence? Get away from the people who will tear you down. There’s enough of that.
如何建立自信?远离那些会拖你后腿的人,这种人太多了。
Muhammad Ali, I am the greatest! There is no one better than me. There’s a difference between hubris, and ego, and false pride. It’s just reminding yourself in quiet silent moments, I put it down on a list, it’s right beside my mirror, right? about all the things that make me who I am.
穆罕默德·阿里,我最牛!没人比我强。傲慢,自我以及装出来的自豪之间是有区别的。要在安静的时间里时刻提醒自己,我做了一张表,放在镜子旁。表上写着我之所以为我的特质。
Because I make enough mistakes, and the newspapers will recognize it, and people around me will recognize it; and they’ll tear me down, and pretty soon I’ll begin to believe it. www.kouyi.org
我犯的错误已经够多了,报纸会指出,周围的人会指出,他们会打击我,很快我也觉得自己不行了。
There was a time when my confidence was really low. There was a time when I took this job when I came from Iowa, I don’t know if I could do it. I had to bring out my self-confidence letter. A letter I wrote to myself when I was feeling good. Ivan, congratulations on getting your PhD before 40. Congra…I am 40, under. Congratulations on winning a national championship. Good job on raising three good kids and marrying the right woman.
有一段时间,我真的非常没有自信。我从爱荷华州来到这里,找到这份工作的时候,我也不知道自己是否能够成功,我只能拿出一封充满自信的信。这是一封我感觉十分良好的时候,写给自己的。伊万祝贺你在40岁之前获得了博士学位。我还没到40岁,祝贺你赢得全国比赛。恭喜你拥有一份好工作,有一个好妻子和3个好孩子。
I wrote a letter to myself, it was my own brag sheet. My own letter about the things I was proud of. Because there are moments, and we’ll all experience them in our career, in our lives, in our job hunting, in our relationships; when we are not feeling good about who, and what, and where we are. And I had to bring out that letter and read it time and time again, for a period of about two weeks, to weather me through that storm. It was important.
我给自己写信。这是我写给自己的自夸信。信里写的是我引以自豪的事情。因为在我们的工作生活中,找工作的过程中,人际关系中,总会对某个人、某件事、某个地方感到不悦。这种时候,我就会拿出我的自夸表一遍一遍的读,这样差不多两周后就能帮我渡过难关。这一点非常重要。
Stop the negative self-talk. If you watch you’ll see some athletes that have a little bandage, or a little brand around them.
不要贬低自我。你可能会看到一些运动员身上缠着绷带,或者戴一个手环。
Lance Armstrong is a perfect one. What’s his self-affirmation? Livestrong isn’t a brand, it was to remind him of who he was. Live strong. Then it became a brand. He would move that from one arm to the next arm, when doubt and fear came into his mind. Live strong, put it on there, let’s go. We’ll all have it, we place it.
兰斯·阿姆斯特朗就是一个很好的例子。他的自我肯定是什么呢?“坚强地活”不只是一个手环,而是用来帮助他找回自我。“坚强地活!”然后它成为了一个品牌。当恐惧和害怕向他袭来的时候,他就会把它从一只手臂换到另一只手臂。坚强地活,戴在手上,我们走!我们都要有这样一个东西。
Two ways to build self-confidence. I’m worried about my time, I’m going to tell you of one way you can build self-confidence in others. We are coaches and educators, we are teachers, we are people who will create value in the world; and in doing that, we are critical by the nature of what we do. www.kouyi.org
有两种方式能够建立自信,我的时间可能有点紧张了,我先告诉你们一种可以帮别人建立自信的方法。我们是教练,是教育者,是教师,是会给世界上创造出价值的人,在这个过程中,我们所做事情的本质是至关重要的。
I am a coach, I want you to score a goal. The ball went over high. “Dang it!” The ball went high! “Thank you coach, I know that. Feedback tells me that.”
我是个教练,我要你得分。球太高了,该死的球太高了!谢谢你,我知道了。
So what do we do? I need you to put your elbow here, I need you to put your knee over the ball, I need you to follow through. Boom. Land. Great.
所以我们要做什么呢?我要你把手肘放在这儿,把膝盖放在球的上方,我要你一路踢出去,好,非常好。
Notice, I never made it as a professional. What can we do? We fix mistakes. When I’m fixing that mistake: “Johnny, this is terrible, you need to bend your knee, you need to do this, this.” www.kouyi.org
注意,我并没有专业的说教,我们能怎么做呢?我们改正错误。我是这样纠错的:“约翰,你要弯下膝盖,要这样,这样。”
What have I done to Johnny’s self-confidence? Bend your knee, then do this, then do this. Next thing you know, Johnny’s crushed. Ignore what Johnny does wrong and find Bob or Sally or Freda over here. Great goal Freda, I love how you kept your knee low, you followed through, and you landed like this. Great job!
我是如何帮助约翰建立自信的呢?如果我对他说,弯膝盖,然后这样这样,约翰就会被打击到。我不去关注约翰做错的地方,而去看鲍勃萨利或者佛雷德。佛雷德好球,膝盖弯得很低,这样很好,这个射门很好,姿势也很好,非常好!
Johnny: “Oh?” Great! Johnny’s not demoralized. His confidence isn’t shot, and what I’ve done is, I’ve built up Freda’s. Imagine how we could change the way we parented kids. Instead of: “get that glass off the counter, what’s wrong with you?”
约翰会想,什么,约翰没有被打击到。他的信心得以保留,反而我所做的帮助建立了佛雷德的信心。想一下,我们可以改变教育孩子的方法。不要这样把那个杯子拿下来,你疯了啊?
If we catch the mother, good. Great job! Great job. Thank you Alice for taking your glass to the counter. It sounds simple but we forget about it. Or as educators, or as somebody as a team, if we manage to praise the positive behaviour that we wanted to reinforce. We forget it. It sounds so simple. www.kouyi.org
如果我们能够适时地夸赞,干得好。谢谢你,爱丽丝把杯子拿到柜子这儿。听起来很容易,但我们经常会忘记。作为教育者或者团队中的一员,我们可以恰当的称赞,我们认为做得好的一点。然而我们都忘记了,这么做听起来很容易。
Catch them when they’re good. We forget it. It’s simple.
关注他们的优点,但是我们都忘了,这其实很简单啦。
Here’s what they did.
这就是他们所做的事情。
There was a study in Kansas that did this. They did video, and we all do video. And we show the video of them doing the run of the play: “Um, this goal happened because the basket wasn’t protected, we didn’t rotate here, right? We needed to do this and then cover the slot.”
堪萨斯有一个关于这方面的研究。他们回看视频,我们也回看视频。我们把他们跑位的视频播放出来,“这个进球的原因是因为没有守卫好,在这里我们没有交换位置,我们应该这么做,把这个空位补上。”
And, if that’s the baseline, improvement of the Kansas State team went like this. Then, they said they ignored all of that and they just showed them the times they did it right. The times they did it perfect. That presented no goals, spoke to the same points, improvement went like that.
如果这里是底线,堪萨斯的研究就像这样,他们忽略掉所有因素,他们只展示出正确的地方。做得完美的地方,没有目标,只是在说同一个事情,仅仅这样就带来很大的提升。
It changed and revolutionized the way we as coaches interact with our student athletes.www.kouyi.org We can apply that to the business world, we can apply that to our student group works, we can apply that to our management teams.
它改变了教练与自己的队员进行交流联系的方式。我们同样可以将其运用到商业世界中,运用到学生团体中,运用到管理团队中。
Easily: catch them when they are good.
很简单,在他们表现好的时候,适时赞赏。
Last and certainly not least. My son is really good at this. Self-confident people interpret feedback the way they choose to. I ask my son who is by the far a terrible, terrible athlete, gets it from his dad.
最后一点,我儿子这一点做得特别好。自信的人对别人的反馈有一套自己的理解方式,我问到我儿子,他父亲队伍里,目前为止谁是最可怕的运动员。
The game’s…How’s the game? Oh great! I scored three goals, I got two assists. I’m like: “I did not see him touch the puck!” But he has his own perception of how he did! I love it!
这场比赛怎么样非常好,我进了三个球,辅助了两次,我在想,我都没看到他碰球!但是他觉得自己做到了这一点非常好!
Right? I’m the…I’m that guy! I’m like: “I remember when I was taking when I met my wife, it was in the commons. “Paulie, would you like to go to the movies? Ladies? Tingly, tingly, tingle.”
那就是我!还记得我第一次见到我妻子的时候,那是在大学食堂,宝丽,你想跟我一起看电影吗?叮叮叮。
And she goes: “Ah, no.” I asked her again. Because I think that she just hasn’t seen me in the right light.
她拒绝了我,于是我又问了一遍。因为我觉得我出现时的光线不够好。
Maybe, that’s not the wrong shirt on. Right? Because I’m interpreting that the way I want to interpret it.
也许当时的T恤不适合是吧?因为我就在用我自己的方式去理解。
Finally I asked her out again. She gave me this one comment, right? Or, she sent it to her friend. Because that’s the way you did it back then. “She wouldn’t date you unless there was the last person on Earth, hell was freezing over, there was a small chance we had to save the planet Earth. Some people, it’s like, there’s no chance.
最后我就约她出去。她通过朋友给了我一个回应。我就是这样接到的回应的。除非你是世界上最后一个男人,地狱结冰,她和你约会的可能性和我们拯救地球的一样。如果是别人的话,可能就会认为没有机会了。
I’m like: “You’re saying there’s a chance.” Right? Because that’s how I’m going to interpret it. If I could give you one thing to take from this, it is: no one will believe in you unless you do.
我就觉得这里还是有机会的。这就是我的理解。如果有一点是我能够教给你们的,那就是除非你做到了,否则没有人会相信你。
Listen to the words of that video, here’s to the crazy ones, the misfits, the rebels, the troublemakers, the round pegs in the square holes. We’re supposed to be different, folks. And when people look at us, believe in yourself.
那个视频中都是疯子,不称职的人,反叛者,麻烦制造者,不守规则的人。朋友们,我们应当做最独特的自己。当别人看向我们的时候,请相信自己,
Thank you.
谢谢。
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